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We all have different styles when it comes to reacting to stress. Some of us have a gut-reaction, which results in an IUR (immediate uncensored response). Others need time to process. There’s not necessarily a good or bad way – whatever our way is, it’s ours.

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Like Anthony Chan our Triage Nurse for instance:  One never has to wonder what Anthony is thinking – he can be judge-y, abrupt, off-putting… but you always know where you stand with him. He’s a perfectionist who’s hardest on himself and lots of times his condescending behavior is a result of how much he cares about getting things right. His ability to instantly react makes him great at his job, because in an emergency he’s immediately on it!  He’s very “exacting” so when he needs to take charge, he owns it. But I’ve gotta be honest —  sometimes his  overly-BIG responses to the teeniest issues push me over edge of the gurney!

On the flip side — the opposite reactive-style can irritating as well —  like someone who doesn’t react, or reacts passively –like a certain Doctor I know.  He tends to avoid confrontation by refusing to engage, mainly because he takes time to think things through. He’s good in an emergency in a different way, because he remains calm and doesn’t make the wrong decision. But in a male-female disagreement he’s EXHAUSTING because he tends to check out — like completely. I’m probably just jealous, because by the time he says something, he’s thought it through and says what he wants to say – carefully and thoughtfully. He lets the emotion simmer down and generally becomes more objective in the process.  Sooo annoying! Beyond!!!

To React or Not React — That is the Question!

I’m somewhere in the middle.  If someone is hammering on me I eventually react. I’ve been known to get a little teary and defensive. I rarely yell or raise my voice though. I’m always so worried about what someone will think of me in the end, that I almost always see the other side and realize maybe I could’ve been better.  Some people have a hard time with the words “I’m sorry.” For me “Sorry-sorry” is part of my daily dialogue.

I guess deep down we’re all a little sorry-sorry when we give others a hard time.  It doesn’t make them feel good, but it doesn’t make us feel good either. Even Don Draper feels bad after he barks at Betty or misunderstands Megan.

If only we could stay calm and say what we wished we would’ve said after we’ve played it over in our mind many times after.  Maybe Dr. Crush has the right idea after all. But don’t tell him I said so… ahaha.

(Coming up soon — GIVING SOMEONE THE SILENT TREATMENT… it’s another angle on diffusing the anger and often ends up in laughter. More when I feel like writing more…)

What’s your reactive style? Share in the comments!

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